Sugar-high
“WOW, he’s had a lot of sugar tonight, hasn’t he?” said the young Walgreen’s cashier regarding my son who is completely minding his own business. Sure, he’s hopping in front of the door sensor to watch it open and close, but big deal. What makes someone comment about a child who is just being a child? Are we so warped that we can’t allow children to be children anymore? My son is very bright and was likely trying to figure out what part of the door makes it open when he stepped on it or in front of it. I didn’t ask him, but knowing him as I do it’s a safe assumption that was his mission.
Normally, I would be offended at her comment as I have heard it many times before, but tonight I decided to take time to educate her a bit. “No, he’s not had a bit of sugar. (she looks at the Jolly Ranchers I’m buying..lol…darn sugar cravings!!) If you must know, they are for me. Adults like candy too, you know. He’s simply high on life. Actually, he has ADHD and can be a bit more active at times than other children his age, especially at night. He takes medication to help him focus, which wears off about this time. He’s a brilliant child and happens to be a joy to raise. He’s likely trying to figure out your door and how it works rather than trying to drive you crazy by opening it over and over. Unfortunately, children with ADHD are often misunderstood as being pests when they simply cannot focus properly. He also may have Asperger’s Syndrome, but that’s a whole other story. So, no he’s not high on sugar…he’s high on life and being loved by his family.”
She was pretty silent for the rest of the time she checked us out. I wasn’t trying to be ugly to her, but simply wanted her to be aware that not all children are overfed with sugar. Does he get to have sugar? Sure. In moderation most of the time. To make comments about children when you don’t have children of your own or know the child is a bit presumptuous. As my son’s mother it’s my job to stand up for him, be tactful in doing so, and help him navigate the world until he’s able to do so on his own. When we left Walgreen’s, she said “Ma’am, I think your son is blessed to have a Mom like you who cares so much.” I was really touched by her words, sincerely. I thought for a minute and thanked her. As we walked out…I couldn’t help but hope that all children have parents who care enough to do what’s right for their children no matter what.
